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Colegio El Roble en Interlomas Estado de México.

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The COVID19 pandemic drastically marked each of our lives in one way or another. It has invited us to change our ways of doing things which in turn has required adjustment and adaptation on our behalf.


Of all the languages on earth the most difficult one to master is that of our emotions and feelings. Emotions are but energy in movement and they live in us and are there to help us learn and grow. Let’s think, if it’s hard for us as adults to navigate and administer our emotions, imagine how valuable it would be to teach our kids from a young age the importance of emotional intelligence. 

Here are a few tips that I suggest to foster emotional intelligence in young children and adolescents:

1.- Start with yourself.

The Conscious Discipline model teaches us that our calm as adults feeds our children’s calm, just as our anxiety fuels theirs. That is why is is necessary to work on oneself before we expect the people around us to work on themselves.

2.- Name your own emotions.

Don’t look to hide or mask your emotions. We are all humans regardless of age and we all feel different things. When we learn to identify, name and give our emotions importance we can learn to assume them and manage them correctl

3.- Have conversations where you listen intently.

To understand what your child is saying and feeling it is a must to be present and to teach them how to communicate their desires and frustrations with words.

4.- Spend quality time with your loved ones.

Enjoy and treasure the time you spend with family. Look to play, share and listen to what your children want to transmit to you along with their needs. Keep in mind that these things are not only expressed through speech but through actions as well, so be mindful of both so you can have a more informed approach to them.

5.- Establish house routines.

Routines can help bring structure to a household and are useful to inform us of what is expected. If we establish clear schedules and activities we can create a rhythm to our days and everyone will know what is expected of them. This helps cultivate a feeling of safety.

6.- Practice activities and hobbies as a family.

This helps strengthen bonds and connection which in turn boosts confidence and feelings of belonging. Becky Bailey, the creator of Conscious discipline says that conexion is great for both boosting mood but also creates brain connections that enforce cooperation.

7.- Give you kids ways to help around the house.

This can be through simple tasks but they should be something that represents a useful aspect for the family. Everyone needs to feel needed and they belong to something bigger than ourselves and we can achieve this by contributing to our community.

8.- See and recognize the good things they do.

Focus your attention on the things you want to achieve, not on the things you don’t want to happen. Recognize accomplishments because that will help strengthen their self esteem and sense of accomplishment.

9.- Be patient.

Teaching new emotional management skills requires time and it can be a daunting process for both parents and children. That’s why through practice and confidence you will achieve the success you desire.

In conclusion, the pandemic has made us all reflect on the essential aspects of emotional health and wellbeing and the ways and actions we can reinforce to teach them to our kids. Share these tips with your spouse and children so that you can learn as a family.

Angela León Cavagna
Psicóloga Elementary